Hubby has a firm belief – you should not get married before 25. It is pretty obvious why he feels this way given how his pre-25 marriage turned out. Hubby met me when I was 23 and he would not, under no circumstances marry me until I was 25 – we got hitched two months after my quarter century birthday….
He doesn’t for one second think that all marriages before this magic age are doomed – we have friends and family that are going strong and didn’t follow this rule. My parents are not all that far off 40 years and my mom was 21 when she said I do. His point is a person changes A LOT between 18 and 25.
I agree with him on this one.
He thinks that being married while going through this osmosis makes life all that more difficult.
From what I’ve seen I would have to say I also agree with him.
I would also add a few things to the list of things that a person should not do until they reach 25:
Getting a tattoo, buying a house, getting a dog, having children, getting a credit card or loan (excluding student loans)…..
Besides having children and obviously getting married I did all of the above before 25….. (This picture is not me - my tattoo is much smaller and of a Canadian leaf...... I'm not a huge tattoo fan and would never want someone I know to get something as large as this, but I have to say the art talent behind it is pretty cool.....)
I don’t agonize or lose sleep with the pain of regret about those things I did that I wish I hadn't, but I would for sure not do most of them again if I had a do over – for me buying a house is the exception, that worked out okay, but it did add a bunch of responsibility and could have for sure become somewhat of an albatross, had life gone a different way.
Here’s the thing – I think most people over the age of 25 would agree with my list and might have their own added do not’s - but most if not all people under the age of 25 don’t listen and sadly have to learn the hard way………………………
I had kids before 25. I still don't have a tattoo. No one is going to poke me with the pain of 5 million needles.
ReplyDeleteI definitely know that kids don't need loans with as many as my kids have stuck me with. ;)
i agree with having children, loans/credit cards...tattoos I think express a place and time in your life and what your going through, some people keep a journal others cover themselves in ink...I bought my house 4 months after my 25th bday, and I got my dog 4mths before I turned 25 -tho I would have gotten one sooner had i been able to afford to look after one.
ReplyDeleteI more or less have a list of things you should do before your 25 to help you with discovering yourself: move out of your parents house and live alone or with roomates, gain some independance, work as many jobs as your as given opportunities to, who knows you might discover a career that never would have even crossed your mind, travel -it's ok to work that min wage job just to blow all your saings on a trip to europe or australia-whereever go and see the world beyond your back yard, if you think you know what you want to do go to college or university, and if you change your mind go take something else (i did!), make mistakes and find the lesson within, surround yourself with good people some of those people will be with you for life, live, love, laugh, expirence heartache whether it be from a significant other or a "so called friend" i'll help you to determine what kind of people you want to be around and be yourself...
I'm sure I can come up with more but those are my off the top of my head ones :)
i forgot to put why 25? what the difference between 24 1/2 or 25 1/4? age is a number and i think it also depends on the person like you said you're parents got married young, mine too my mom was 19, they did wait 5 years before having kids. Different people mature at different rates, I have a 40yr old acquaintance that missed that osmosis and is now struggling to figure out who he is.
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